An international love story indeed. One that crosses borders and seas. My youngest sister, the last in our family, got married last two weeks to a guy from Bandung. We went back to Malaysia for a short two-week holiday, specially for the wedding, half of which was spent in Indonesia.
We arrived in KL a day before the wedding. My brother and his family was also back. So all the cucu of Engku Seri Perdana were together again – a rare occasion that happens perhaps once in two years. I just love the hustle & bustle or kekecohan yang terkata when our families are under one roof, with my mum panicking over every little detail of the preparation. Nothing beats that. It also brought memories of my wedding more than twelve years ago.
The akad nikah was held at my parents’ house in Klang. A simple yet joyous event. All family members wore peach while the bride was clad in traditional white beaded lace kurung modern. The akad was done by my dad and the groom was loud and clear that the audience almost applauded in excitement. I too was touched when I caught tears of joy in my lil sis’ eyes. Next was the batal air sembahyang ceremony and exchanging of rings. The best part of this was how they were asked to repeatedly do the forehead-kissing scene for the cameras.
The reception was held at Dewan Jubli Perak Shah Alam on the very next day. As usual, the morning was spent on rehearsals. The girls did their hair at the nearby salon while mum and aunts were being made up by the assistant make-up artist. Me and Hubby led the procession of pengantin and flower girls. So did we when my other sister got married, so yeah, this was nothing new to us. Thank goodness baby Ziyad was happily being passed around while mummy and ayah busy meng-glamourkan diri. The event was graced by DYMM Sultan Selangor and all the Orang Besar Istana, Ahli Dewan Diraja, Orang Besar Daerah and Ketua2 Jabatan, amongst others. Kak Engku was the MC for the nite with her subtle jokes to add some flavor to the wedding. Outside the hall, there was a backdrop ala red carpet speciallly for photos. And an interestingly designed slide show, both courtesy of the bride’s employer – an advertising agency of course. Overall, the event went beautifully. Bravo to the committee!
Last, was the much looked forward reception in Bandung. A total of 40 family members flew to Bandung, taking the opportunity to also hit the factory outlets which the town is most known for. The event was held at Graha Tirta Siliwangi, not far from Hyatt Hotel, where we stayed. The couple and both parents started getting ready as early as 5am as the ceremony started at 10.30am. My parents were provided with Sundanese outfits. They looked amazing although my dad looked a little uncomfortable. The ceremony was rich with Sundanese culture and rituals. The newlywed was first greeted by a dance and led to the stage where both mums and dads fed them with pulut kuning. This was ended by the couple feeding each other with their hands criss-crossing each other. Next was the ‘sawer’ where the couple sat under an umbrella while both parents threw coins and candy away while the kids tried to catch them. This is to symbolize sharing of wealth. Next the couple burned some sticks, put out the flame, break them in pieces and threw them away. This reflects that any problems in marriage needs to be destroyed and discarded. Lastly the groom steps on an egg and the bride washes his shoe with some water from a ‘kendi’ to symbolize that a woman’s job is to serve her husband. Pretty symbolic, yeah? The makan was also awesome as they served an international buffet ranging from dimsum, tomyam, roast beef, chicken cordon bleu and etcetera.
Alhamdulilllah everything went smoothly. Thanks to all the family and relatives who worked hard to support us, we really appreciate it. To Zahidah & Rizal, welcome to the next exciting chapter of your life. Semoga berbahagia ke akhir hayat.